10 Reasons Why You Attract Toxic Dudes

1. There’s Such A Thing As Being Too Kindhearted
This is basically being a doormat. You never complain or communicate your true emotions, and that will backfire. Being too kind is just accepting unacceptable behavior and letting someone think that’s ok? Now that’s not virtuous.

2. You See Him As A Fixer Upper, But You Can’t Change Him
You keep trying to change damaged and abusive people with bad energy, so that’s why you keep falling for similar people. Get rid of the savior complex and save your time. You need a partner that is on your level.

3. You Fall Into Being A People-Pleaser
If you’re addicted to pleasing people, it might not be that bad with friends or family. But with a partner, if you just endlessly please or giving them the benefit of the doubt, you end up not respecting your own needs and wants

4. You Don’t Create Boundaries
Boundaries are necessary in a healthy relationship, and if you don’t create any, toxic people will wiggle their way in and take advantage of that. Creating boundaries isn’t being a bitch – remember that.

5. You’re Too Trusting
Don’t be naive! Being open-hearted and trusting is a great quality to have, but you have to invest that trust in the right people. If you give it to everyone and can’t sniff out something shady, you’re bound to let toxicity enter your life.

6. You Try To Be The ”Cool Girl”
You try to be too laid-back. You let his friends play video games at your place at all hours, you let him bail at a moment’s notice, all so you can be the “chill” girlfriend. Pacifism can be interpreted as being able to get away with anything you want, for someone toxic.

7. You Don’t Leave A Toxic Situation When You Should 
You let it drag on for too long, because you’re scared of being alone and are worried you’re in the wrong. But by accepting this behaviour you’re letting it become a cycle, letting terrible person after terrible person in. Nip it in the bud and break the cycle to stop attracting these toxic people.


8. You’re Afraid of Being Alone And Like Having A BF 
So when you’re lonely, you attach to the closest thing and make yourself vulnerable. If you’re in an in-between phase of your life with relationships, it’s ok to be single! Some introspection will do you good instead of hanging with someone whose just trying to prey on your weakness and use you.

9. You Don’t Exude Confidence
Toxic people will notice that you don’t love yourself, so why should they put in the effort? You become a target that’s easy to manipulate if you don’t value yourself.

10. You’re Fine With Inconsistencies
In order to prove himself worthy of you, a man should have some consistency and be reliable. His traits should shine through in all situations, not just sometimes. You’ll accept a man saying the sweetest things at times, and showing his polar opposite colors at others. If his actions oppose his words, you shouldn’t take that lightly.